Anxiety is, in most cases, related to concern, worry.
Anxiety gets materialized because of the anticipation that your mind will create when in fear of something that is about to happen or something happening in the near future.Worry can be useful when it leads us to act and solve a problem, however, if you are concerned with hypothetical scenarios or catastrophic scenarios, the concern becomes a serious problem.
Questions and irrational fears are paralyzing, and discouraging non-productive. Anxiety and consequently the fuss will drain your emotional energy, increase stress levels, and interfere in their day-to-day, all without any positive return.
For us, sclerotic, anxiety can be even more problematic. Studies have linked high levels of anxiety and the worsening of the symptoms of multiple sclerosis, especially with fatigue, body aches and problems with memory and concentration.
And then you ask me: how not to be anxious having a totally unpredictable disease? It's really hard to forget (we never forget!!!) that everything can change really fast, right?
But the secret is: EVERYTHING CAN REALLY CHANGE. And not only for me or you, we do have a chronic disease, but with anyone, anywhere, anytime.
The good news is that the terrible habit of chronic concern is a mental process that you can learn to reduce and even overcome. You can train your mind to be more calm and controlled, allowing you to look at life in a more positive perspective.
In the next posts I will talk a little bit about the anxiety and, especially, how to control it, using it to your advantage.
But to start, below is a very interesting chronicle on the subject, published in Blogs With No Retouching, of the Estadão (Brazilian Newspaper), written by Marilia Neustein:
I have an enemy. We fight all the time, because I feel that she does not respect me. And she fights with me because she thinks she owns me. Anxiety. This deeply unpleasant thing that affects much of the population.
Let us be clear: I do not speak of anxiety-disease, which is severe and can be treated. But I'm here to talk to you about anxiety, that hinders our relationship.
It arrives in the most inopportune situations: before an important and tense meeting, close to a trip in which you nourish special expectations or when you are quietly waiting someone, special, to get in touch with you.
It only disturbs. It makes you make your boyfriend mad when you want to get to a wedding in time to see the bride walk down the isle; does not let you take the time for things to happen naturally and therefore makes you run over a variety of situations; It poisons you and convinces you that the world is in a great conspiracy against you, when in fact, you're just anxious and want things your way.
The worst combination is when anxiety decides to invite it's best friend to spend the night: insomnia. Sleepless nights just thinking about the mobile account, the washer machine has to be repaired, in your car's chassis, the esay that is due and you are not done, the dress you borrowed from your friend last year and has not returned. It seems that when they are together - anxiety and insomnia - even your childhood problems decide to revisit you and say you're late, wrong, lazy and can not do anything right.
Some people - do not know how - claim that anxiety has a positive point: because it leads people to act. However, this is a big trap, because who acts under anxiety is not in thinking straight. The person that goes crazy during an anxiety attack, like the "woman driving angry towards the supermarket because she could not wait for her husband to finish watching thegame to go"? This is not cool, but it's normal at the home of an anxious person.
How to fight this evil? You have a thousand and one options: mothers are great at these times, friends, meditation, chamomile tea, various therapies. The best recipe that works for everything: physical exercise combined with a good diet - although, if you propose to do this and can't do it, it is another cause of anxiety, then this topic will only be good to those that are already overcoming. Oh and of course, always have the option to you to relate to people less anxious. If you are not really anxious, it will realize that we have much to learn from people who knows how to relax. Especially in situations that generate anxiety.
In a meeting, on a plane, in line. Being close to someone calm, to me, is the best medicine. Ok, it is often annoying: you are nervous and the person next to you is fearless like nothing is really happening. But most of the time, nothing is really happening. It is only our eager little head overreacting and turning small disorders in great tragedies. Keep calm and live a lighter way of life.
Don't miss the next post, with strategies to relieve anxiety!!!